Many of the parents still do not understand that chores are actually life skills that cannot be negotiated with. These life skills are something that a child doesn’t learn in any class but at home.
Many of the young adults today, struggle to manage chores with their jobs or studies. This is because in many households, making the kids do or learn chores are not a part of upbringing and studies or sports etc are given importance over it. As a result, they grow up thinking that these tasks are not important, which is hardly a truth.
The daily tasks like making your bed to washing or drying cloths, doing the dishes, cleaning or cooking etc are something that are a part of daily living that cannot be skipped. You might have a help or a maid who can take care of most of the things most of the time but when a child who has hardly learned any household chores, “goes out” for studies or job finds it almost impossible to keep up with these tasks. Then comes a point when these tasks start to take over and we find that we cannot even move forward without doing the things you thought are not that important.
The below tips might be useful:
- Value and respect the work: Doing the household chores is a lot of work. It is essential skill to be learned for living. Adults need to first value it when their partners are doing it and then only they can expect that the kids will value doing them too.
- Start small: The start to teach the chores could be as simple as bringing plates to kitchen after lunch or dinner, helping in yard cleaning, assisting in shopping etc. Parents can delegate the task as per the age of the kids. So for example younger kids get to lift the plates up to the kitchen whereas elder kids help in doing the dishes.
- Don’t use chores as punishment: The purpose is to make the kids do things and make it a part of their daily living. If the chores are used as punishment for not studying or not listening to you then definitely they are not going to like them at all.
- Don’t feel guilty: You do not have to feel guilty of teaching something to kids without which they would not be able to survive on their own. Also, when you do not use the chores as punishment, your kids will also not think of the chores as something awful.
- Merge chores with fun: Play songs while you are doing the dishes or cooking, dance while you are cleaning, teach those fast and fun ways to fold clothes. A parent could be creative and imaginative and most importantly has to be patient.
- Teach by example: Children learn what they live. Be an example to your kids. Teach them that this is a part of being independent not just earning. Tell them why this is important. Work with them on the tasks initially. Give examples in real life. There are many.
Involving kids in chores from very early also helps them keep fit which is very essential. It teaches them responsibility and prepares them to take ownership. Completing the chores gives them a sense that they individually can finish something important, which builds their confidence.
It is the responsibility of the adults around the children (parent, grandparents…) to make the kids learn these skills as a part of growing up. After all being independent is not just about earning money.